The Struggle of "What If"

Good day to you. I have been doing so many product reviews and giveaways lately to keep myself busy. I have seemed to got off the path I wanted to go down with my blog. I think I had the vision that most of us had. Sharing my story with the world and hopefully helping someone along the way.



I did't realize how hard it was putting my feelings on the line and letting people Judge me for what they see not who I am. I am pretty simple and happy being me but, it took a lot to get here. Hard work, worry, devotion, struggle, divorces, marriage, my kids, step kids, cancer and beating it, addiction, sobriety, love, Lots Of Love, has made me the woman I am today.

Aron & Cassie

With all of the blog excitement, I haven't posted all about myself like I wanted to in the beginning. I had the need to share with the world it's okay to not be perfect. It's okay to love too much and get hurt. To make mistakes, big ones, and learn a lesson about life. 

I have been there and survived. I love telling my daughters about "Our Story's" the ones they might not know or have even heard a million times, if I think there is something valuable to tell, I will tell it. 

About 2 months ago I found a lump in my right breast, I was scared so bad. My Aunt had breast cancer. I really didn't know what to do. I stood in the showed and cried feeling overwhelmed with the possibilities.

I am a 7 year cancer survivor. I know what it feels like to hear those words come out of a doctors mouth. I was 26 the first time I heard it. At the time I was a single mom with two little girls and scared, terrified, they would grow up without a mama just like I grew up without a dad.

(from back left Cassie, Abby, Me, Aron)

I was so scared to tell him about the lump. I had decided in that moment I wasn't going to say anything, I was going to schedule my yearly and talk to the Doc about it first. I wanted to not over react in the event of it being nothing. 

I had my mind made up I was going to say I got soap in my eyes, that's why they were red and puffy. I got out of the shower, dried off, wrapped in my towel, and set out for my quest of cloths just like normal. I walked through our living room and he said what's wrong? That was it, I lost my calm.


We sat on the couch and made plans and appointments. He was very concerned and said we weren't going to stop until we found out what it was. Doctor appointments, blood tests, waiting for results, then the mammogram, waiting for the results of my last one to come from out of state, for comparison. It was about a month of back and forth. 

I am okay. It was not cancer, turned out to be a lump of connective tissue. I used to be heavier than what I am now. I lost over 100 pounds in the last 2 years and when I was bigger, the lumps were less noticeable. 



The night I got the results we went out for dinner to celebrate that I am healthy. That was a very big deal and we made it through. We were in bed that night doing our nightly pillow talk. Husband and wife gossip about our day, planning the next day's adventure, who's doing what and all of that jazz and Aron said hey babe, can I say something.

I paused my babble and said "Sure". He hugged me and burst into tears. What I thought he was handling okay, he was not. With all of the support in the world for ME, he was trembling on the inside fighting the battle of "What If". The strongest man in the world, my hero, was scared. He hugged me which turned into me holding him as he sobbed. His confession of "I don't know what I would ever do without you by my side everyday. To wake up too, To hold at night, To share my life with". He said "I love you Baby, I need you"



 I didn't know that someone could ever loved me so much. I know he loves me, he is my husband. We have vows and promised our unconditional love to each other. I love him that much and have been to Hell and back with his health, I know what he meant. I would be devastated without him. He is my rock, my strength, motivation, and my biggest Fan. He is my best friend. 



Now, I am the happiest I have been in my whole life. I have a loving husband. Beside my girls, the absolute love of my life.

I wanted to share that personal moment with you because it was potentially a life changer. It is okay to be scared. Most importantly get checked out if there is something questionable going on. My question to you, Do you have something planned in case there is a health concern that needs addressed immediately? A doctor, a confidant? Is there someone to help with the kids?  Life is so precious and anything can happen. 

Are you ready for the "What If's"? 

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