You love your partner; you’re sure of it. But you can see the romance in your relationship waving goodbye, and you’re not sure what happened or what you’re doing wrong. Honeymoons don’t last forever, but romance can. And although there are days in every relationship where you just don’t feel like being romantic, certain habits can strangle the romance out of your love life. So, is your relationship losing its spice? Find out if you’re guilty of any of these romance-killing habits.
Denying your partner intimacy
Romance and intimacy go together most of the time. You may not always be in the mood for intimacy, but if you’re hardly ever in the mood to be intimate with your partner, you may be blowing out the flame of romance.
If you feel you constantly lack the urge to be intimate with your partner, perhaps you could try counseling or products that can help boost your urge. Thankfully there are various options available for both sexes. For example, with females, a product like O-shot can help bring that groove back and lift your mood.
Staring at your phone when together
Thanks to smartphones, social media platforms, online games, and what have you, more and more people are becoming guilty of this simple mistake - staring at their phone when they should be looking deep into the partner’s soul. Okay, maybe not necessarily going that deep, but it is essential to give your partner your full attention when you’re together. Most people can tolerate any other source of distraction but not staring into the phone. Even if your partner has no problem with it, this habit can be disengaging.
Constantly complaining about work or stress
It is healthy to talk about how your day went or how you feel, but nobody wants a complaining partner. There is a thin line between discussing your day and complaining about work or everything else wrong in your life. And many people end up crossing that line.
If you talk about stress and work-related issues for more than 10 to 20 minutes in a day, then you are crossing that thin line.
Bottling up emotions
While you should be careful not to appear nagging and complaining all the time, you should also do your best not to bottle up your emotions. For most people, it is easier to swallow up your emotions in the heat of the moment. Some do so to stop them from saying things they might regret, while others prevent an argument. However, it is essential to always speak about how you feel, as pent-up feelings can breed resentment and affect your health. And this can kill the romance flame in your relationship.
A lack of enthusiasm
The older your relationship gets, the easier it becomes to stop trying. Remember how romantic you were during the first few weeks or months - the dates, the surprises, the gifts, the constant effort to display your affection towards your partner? The same level of enthusiasm should continue throughout your relationship. It is hard work, and no one said it was going to be easy. But if you want to keep the fire burning, you’ve to continue feeding it.
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