Newly Divorced? Reinvent Yourself and Your Style!

If you've ever gone through a significant break-up, you probably know how earth-shattering it feels. After a long-term relationship, it's hard to feel like yourself or react in your lifestyle to the change. If a relationship defines your life, breaking out of that mindset is hard without reinventing your life a bit. It's easy to feel lost, overwhelmed, and unsure of yourself. What is a better way there to regain control than updating your wardrobe?

When you look good, you feel good, and changing up your style can be a great way to reinvent yourself and start fresh. Purging your old wardrobe and finding a new way to express yourself is the ultimate way to have fun and move on from a troubling time.

Step One: Out With The Old, In With The New

The first step is the dreaded closet purge! While you might feel attached to your old wardrobe, it's a cathartic experience to go through your closet and get rid of anything reminding you of your past self or relationship. Clothes hold more emotional attachments than you think, so it works wonders to get rid of things when trying to move on.

As Marie Kondo advises, try to keep the things that “spark joy” and cast aside anything that doesn't fit or that you have no use or love for. Then, donate, sell, or recycle the old clothes to free up space for steps 2-4.
Step Two: Define Your Style

If you haven't thought about your wardrobe since before your relationship, you might feel lost with this new project. Focus on expressing yourself for yourself rather than for other people. What kind of colors and styles have you always wanted to try but didn't think you could pull it off? What clothes have you seen in the store and thought, "What if…" without buying them? You can explore and experiment with different styles—this is the perfect time to make significant changes.

Take a look at your current wardrobe, and identify what you like and what you don't. Then, start a Pinterest board, or Instagram saved folder and collect inspirational images of your preferred styles. You can create a clear picture of your new style and save time and money by avoiding clothes that don't align with your preferences.

Step Three: Invest in Quality

Invest in high-quality basics that are timeless, versatile, and fit you well. For example, pieces like a well-fitted pair of jeans, a classic white t-shirt, a leather jacket, or a simple black dress—these pieces can be dressed up or down and fit with any future wardrobe changes.

Fast fashion trends tend to die fast and hard. The industry is generally more exploitative and environmentally unfriendly than handmade or designer pieces. Investing in higher quality garments will save you money in the long run since your clothes won't need to be replaced as often as the fast fashion alternatives.

Step Four: Spice Things Up

Once you have some quality base pieces, you can spice up your wardrobe with more experimental, trendy clothes that you can mix and match with your more practical garments. However, don't go overboard with trends; they tend to go out of style quickly, and you don't want to end up with a wardrobe full of dated clothes. Instead, choose a few pieces that speak to your style and mix them with your timeless basics.


Divorce is difficult for anybody, but having the right resources and mindset can make it slightly easier. Updating your wardrobe can be an excellent way to rebuild your confidence and distract you from the hardship of your situation.

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Following these steps can help you regain control over your life. However, don't stress yourself out! Updating your wardrobe should be a fun and daring journey. Imagine your closet is Narnia, not another responsibility on your shoulders. This is you taking back control and spicing up your life again.

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